Do Life Well
January, 2016 · By Coryanne Ettiene
I blinked, and suddenly it is 2016. And I am 40 something. And I am a mother. And I’ve been married for 16 years and… this. And that. I mean seriously, when did all of this happen? I came across a quote form Iman today that reads “Sometimes you will never know the true value of a moment until it becomes a memory“. It grabbed me by the tip of my breath, and when I read it, I inhaled every word deeply, and exhaled slowly with the knowledge that there are words out there that plainly describe what I’m feeling as I stand with my back to 2015, and my arms wide open for 2016.
I’ve never been one to take much stock in the passing of a year, even my children joke that I don’t know how old I am; but this year, this month, I know because I plan on going forward and doing life well. Not because I have not been, but because, I’m all too aware that life can be brief and unpredictable, and that in the end it is not the things we have amassed, but the memories we created that matter when we are gone.
Since I started this blog 5 years ago, I’ve been in a race to the finish, chasing the dream that many of us foodies and lifestyle experts aspire to. This journey towards the dream has taught me 2 things: The first is that I’m in love with the chase, and no matter how much I try to take a break, I love what I do and pinch myself frequently because I am very much living the dream. Yet despite this, I’m reminded by the wise words of Socrates when he says to beware the barrenness of a busy life. It is true, somewhere along the way I have glorified busy and no matter how much I adore the chase, I adore lazy weekends spent carelessly asking “what shall we do next” just as much; and sadly I did not utter that phrase once in 2015, moreover, at any point between 2012 and 2015, if I am honest.
The second is that to be truly authentic, to be transparent and to be genuine in my passions, I need to retreat, to digest life and to find other creative outlets that keep me inspired and energized. Some call it burning out, I think it is really just understanding that variety is the spice of life, and that I have spent 5 years doing one thing when in fact I’m itching to explore new things, and spread my wings. That does not mean that I will stop blogging, doing videos, hosting social parties or working on Box Nine Magazine; it simply means that I will take more time to be present at home, to invest in different projects like the opening of Ettiene Market, and find a few weekends where time is in abundance.
These past few weeks have allowed me to recharge, to focus on those around me and to reconnect with what I’m passionate about. I’m so very excited about 2016. This is the year where I will balance both family and work, where time will be the commodity that we trade in, where life is looked at with full understanding of how fragile it is…….and this will be the year that I can say, I did life well and truly valued the moments as they unfolded.
Wishing you all a fabulous 2016. If anything, I hope this rather vulnerable blog post and honest approach to the new year has inspired you to look at how you define the statement “do life well“. I know it is a sentiment that will forever be a source of inspiration for me, and my family.